Disclaimer: This post has nothing to do with "swingers" or anything like that, so if you are into that sort of thing (and I'm not here to judge) you might as well save yourself some time and stop reading now...
Last month, I was reading an article in Cosmo, *ahem*, I mean some really really classy magazine called "What Happy Couples Know" that gave a list of things that you needed to have in order to have a happier marriage. Want to know what topped the list? FRIENDS... Basically something to the effect of couples who have close friend couples have happier marriages and lower divorce rates and backed it up with a bunch of research I didn't care enough to look into. It did get me thinking though...
In the past three years, pretty much everything that could change in Matt and I's lives did. We got married, moved to California, popped out a couple of babies, and got "real" jobs with "health insurance" and "retirement plans". It was a draaaastic change from the fancy-free lifestyle we had both been living while we were in school (where my biggest stress was when I was going to squeeze in my next tanning appointment). So when we decided to move back home to Utah last year and I found out how much I had really changed. Most of my friends were still single and living the fancy-free from before and we didn't really have that much in common anymore... Actually the meare thought of having to stay up past 11:00pm makes me throw up in my mouth a little. So Matt and I recently decided to make a goal to find new friends... People who know a thing or two about the "hot-dog dance" and how to get crayon off of the walls.
Question: What is harder than finding someone to date? Answer: Trying to find another couple to date.
I feel like finding couple friends is like dating three people instead of one... EVERYONE has to like EVERYONE and have common interests or the group's relationship just won't last long-term. It's the perfect storm. Not to mention where do you meet these people? The produce section of the grocery store? It's not like I can approach a guy and tell him I think he would be great for my husband withouth looking like a total creeper.
I wish someone would invent a match.com for couples - they could match us on different levels and suggest good matches for us. We could review their profile and maybe text or email and get to know each other a little before we decided if we wanted to meet in real life and give it a go.
Tomorrow night we have a blind date with another couple from Matt's work. Here's to hoping they might "be the one". :)
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Abbey I laughed out loud through your whole post! I love reading your blog. You are hilarious! I totally agree with you though-It is so hard finding a couple to hang out with. Good luck on your "date" this weekend:)
Lol...you are killing me...so funny! We would be glad to double - anytime cousin
haha sooo funny and totally true. We have a few couples back in Utah that we are besties with and it is seriously hard to find replacement friends out here. There's a lot of hit and miss dinner and game nights...oops that was the wrong word to let fly!...anyway hope you find what you guys are looking for. :)
It is so true Abi! I agree. You try to mix and match, and it feels like 1 or 2 people don't 'mesh' well. And when you throw kids into it, it's even HARDER.
We find that it is hard to even get people to commit to hanging out. They are all for it, and then bail an hour before.
We love to hang out with people, but its hard to find the 'perfect' couple.
Ever since I moved out of Logan this is exactly what I've been thinking. You said it way better than I ever could though! So funny!
Well, as far as I know you and Matt are way cool. Tanner and I are pretty fun too. And, you did set us up... So we owe you A LOT. That must mean we are a match made in heaven. Let's play sometime! And.... we know ALL about the hot dog dance and recently how to get crayon out of the hard wood floors.
haha... sooo, my fiance and I just had this conversation, so I goodled it, and this blog popped up...
Too bad you don't still live in California, we are still looking for nother fun couple to hang out with...
I googled Match.com for couples also looking for a place for couples to find friends and your post came up. Not only that, but we live in Utah and moved back to Utah from California back in 2009. Anyway, thought that was funny. I'm with you though. I'm surprised there isn't anything like that. I guess I'm gonna have to keep googling. Ha.
This post is old but we live in Texas and were thinking the same thing tonight, googled "match.com for couples" and found you! ---->>>Kupple.com<<< we just made an account but it seems at least a tad bit promising. Good Luck!!! :)
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